I am also glad to report that a winner has been selected for our Scentsy giveaway - a big congrats to Callie Tanner! Sorry to the rest of you that did not win, BUT the good news is that you can still shop in the online party until the end of the month, so get to it :)
And in other news, because I don't spend enough time blogging about sad infertility-related topics, I wanted to share a clip that I recently watched from Julie & Julia. I watched this movie for the first time in the summer of 2009, but because that occurred in the time period in our lives known as "Before We Were Trying to Get Pregnant," I thought nothing of the scene at the time.
I couldn't find it on the internet, so I took a very professional video of the clip with my iPhone. I wouldn't be surprised if youtube decided that was not ok, so if this video isn't working at some point, you'll know why! Lifetime is replaying the movie currently on a semi-regular basis, however, including tonight at 8 pm CST, so if nothing else, you can check it out there.
To set the scene for you, Julia Child (married, in her 40s, and childless) is cooking in the kitchen when her husband, Paul, brings her a letter with news from her recently married sister (who, coincidentally, plays Sue Sylvester in Glee). Now watch to see what happens next:
Sadly, I can relate perfectly with this scene- from her attempt to convince her husband (and perhaps more importantly, herself) that she really is happy for the pregnant person despite the tears streaming down her face, to being comforted by the sweet husband that wants so desperately to fix it.
Though I have never (so far!) received this news from friends/family via snail mail, I have gotten my fair share of e-mails, facebook messages, phone calls, and face-to-face announcements that turned out the very same way. Fortunately, over the last couple of years, I have grown accustomed to receiving this news and putting on my bravest face in response. Don't be fooled, however, because even if the tears don't come immediately, they most definitely do as soon as I've hung up the phone or gotten safely behind closed doors.
Which brings me to two quick points- (1) I know how hard it is to be on the receiving end of this news, so I can only imagine how hard it must be to be the one delivering the news to someone in a situation like mine. So I wanted to publicly thank everyone for doing so as tactfully and gently as possible (most often Allison, the designated messenger) and also apologize for likely (unintentionally!) making you feel bad. (2) I am pretty terrified of having to be on the other side of the fence when we DO finally get pregnant when it comes to telling my sub-fertile friends. Although I have become pretty convinced that the best way to get pregnant is to just become friends with me, so there likely won't be any left once it finally is our turn :)
Ok so I didn't mean to ramble on for as long as I did. Just wanted to share that for those of you who can relate, and those who can't! Thanks, Meryl Streep, for making me feel like I'm not the only crazy one!
And in other news, because I don't spend enough time blogging about sad infertility-related topics, I wanted to share a clip that I recently watched from Julie & Julia. I watched this movie for the first time in the summer of 2009, but because that occurred in the time period in our lives known as "Before We Were Trying to Get Pregnant," I thought nothing of the scene at the time.
I couldn't find it on the internet, so I took a very professional video of the clip with my iPhone. I wouldn't be surprised if youtube decided that was not ok, so if this video isn't working at some point, you'll know why! Lifetime is replaying the movie currently on a semi-regular basis, however, including tonight at 8 pm CST, so if nothing else, you can check it out there.
To set the scene for you, Julia Child (married, in her 40s, and childless) is cooking in the kitchen when her husband, Paul, brings her a letter with news from her recently married sister (who, coincidentally, plays Sue Sylvester in Glee). Now watch to see what happens next:
Sadly, I can relate perfectly with this scene- from her attempt to convince her husband (and perhaps more importantly, herself) that she really is happy for the pregnant person despite the tears streaming down her face, to being comforted by the sweet husband that wants so desperately to fix it.
Though I have never (so far!) received this news from friends/family via snail mail, I have gotten my fair share of e-mails, facebook messages, phone calls, and face-to-face announcements that turned out the very same way. Fortunately, over the last couple of years, I have grown accustomed to receiving this news and putting on my bravest face in response. Don't be fooled, however, because even if the tears don't come immediately, they most definitely do as soon as I've hung up the phone or gotten safely behind closed doors.
Which brings me to two quick points- (1) I know how hard it is to be on the receiving end of this news, so I can only imagine how hard it must be to be the one delivering the news to someone in a situation like mine. So I wanted to publicly thank everyone for doing so as tactfully and gently as possible (most often Allison, the designated messenger) and also apologize for likely (unintentionally!) making you feel bad. (2) I am pretty terrified of having to be on the other side of the fence when we DO finally get pregnant when it comes to telling my sub-fertile friends. Although I have become pretty convinced that the best way to get pregnant is to just become friends with me, so there likely won't be any left once it finally is our turn :)
Ok so I didn't mean to ramble on for as long as I did. Just wanted to share that for those of you who can relate, and those who can't! Thanks, Meryl Streep, for making me feel like I'm not the only crazy one!
8 comments:
I remember feeling this same way while we were undergoing all of our fertility treatments (and the countless canceled fertility treatments). I remember several times learning that another friend was pregnant and while I was genuinely very happy for them (I was!!) I cried all the way home. All I could do was meditate on "God's plans are better than mine." Or "I don't understand God now but someday this will all make sense." Easier said than done but that became my daily meditation. Praying for you!!
Ugh...I slightly relate to this topic. But on a happier (and semi-related) note, your strategy for showing the movie clip reminds me of how back before I had a scanner, if I wanted to share a physical picture or paper, I would just take a (digital) picture of it. That was not ghetto at ALL. Love you, friend.
Ahhh...this came at JUST the right time for me! You are not crazy or alone in feeling that way! Last night I signed in to facebook and one of my brothers-in-law had posted a stupid status that pretty much means my oldest sister-in-law (who has two sons, age 13 and 11 that were both conceived by accident while she was on the pill before they were married) is pregnant again. I pretty much cried the rest of the night and apologized to my husband for being so sad/angry about his sister's good news. Let's just say that is NOT the news I needed about a family member (over a public facebook status) after the news I got Saturday!
And in case anyone thinks I am being harsh by calling his status "stupid," here is what he wrote:
"Okay, who's the asshole that snuck in here and knocked up my wife??????????????"
That is his kind of humor, unfortunately. What a way to announce something so wonderful, huh?
I say just don't tell anyone when you do get pregnant - that will solve the problem of you having to break the news to anyone!
I would cry too. :( I'm sorry.
Just so you know, I would be over the moon if you gave me that great news! My ovaries would too of course.
I check your blog regularly to see the pregnancy post. I just KNOW its going to happen. When you're not going through it, it's easy to be optimistic, I know. But I REALLY do think 2012 is your year. Praying for you!
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